Showing posts with label Love Quest. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Love Quest. Show all posts

Sunday, September 21, 2014

Love Quest Day 7

Good morning.  How perfect that our conclusion is reached on World Peace Day.  For self love is peace; Agape is that quiet within.  Once found, for however fleeting a moment, you know truth.  There is nothing to worry about.  You know where home is.  You know how to get there.

This was not supposed to be easy.  It was supposed to be formative.  We came here to grow, to evolve, to remember truth in the most dire of circumstances.  We are not thrown here, as if to the lions.  We arrive upright, excited and ready.  Remember that.  It will alleviate your self pity and righteous indignation.

We are One.  Today’s global meditation gives us a chance to consciously choose together.  We’re always choosing, and our united voice/choice is absolutely creative.  Yet on most days it’s diluted with 7 billion+ varieties of focus.  Not today.  The opportunity for creation today is astounding.

Alone we have this opportunity each and every moment.  The creative spark for our own lives does not require a match or global participation.  It requires intent.  A direction/focus that spans every interaction; one thought that moves with you through the “time” you experience.

For “time”, illusory as it is, becomes a powerfully creative substance in that where you spend most of it is who you become. We are associative beings.

There is truth in the idea that none of this is real.  Yet that truth requires the 60,000 foot point of view.  We are right here.  This life we love is created by our viewpoint.  I focus on yesterday’s disagreement and I feel pain, disappointment and guilt.  Each article and conversation I participate in, while allowing that focus to permeate my day, will contain some element of pain, disappointment or guilt.  This is how it works. What you do with the illusion of “time” becomes pivotal.

“Time” is a powerfully formative substance in that where you spend most of it is who you become.  Part of the last 7 days has been spent considering self-love.  This Quest is at an end.  I, like you, have been to life changing workshops and read transformative books that lost their power once I stopped going or reading.  The difference was where my head and my “time” were focused.

There is no magic Agape button.  Returning to “life as usual” will only be altered if your desire for joy and power, freedom and love, overrides your addiction to emotional trauma.  You’ll have to want it so badly that you are willing to continue trying for it, regardless of opposition.

This world isn’t currently set up for 7 billion+ sovereign beings; who stand sure and compassionate and unyielding.  Perhaps today, with the end of our Quest and a global voice speaking “Peace”, the preparations can begin.  It’ll take a gentle reminder: “love yourself”. It’ll take a constant intent: “love yourself”.  It’ll take a daily focus: “love yourself”.  It’ll take a new direction: “love yourself”.

To find Agape doesn’t mean you’ll be “right” every time; it means every time you’ll be love.  It’ll take effort and self discipline.  You are a way-shower.  Examples to follow are scarce.  Do not be afraid or discouraged.  This is why you came.  You are fully equipped.  All that you need is found in your heart.  I love you without condition or reservation.

We are the Ones we’ve been waiting for.

It’s been an honor to travel together.  Perhaps we can do so again on our next Quest, October 13th, 2014.  Look for your invite on Face book.  It the coming 3 weeks there will be more gifts (and my blog) found on the new website.  It is a month long celebration!  Please come and visit at www.sophialove.org.  Namaste’.


Enjoy a selection from my son, a composer.  Its description fits ours as well: “dramatic, uplifting, and epic”!




Saturday, September 20, 2014

Love Quest Day 6


Hello!  Welcome to Saturday.  We’ve almost reached the end of this Quest.  We’ll finish on Sunday, which is technically the beginning of next week.  This is intentional and perfect as we are eternal and this journey is circular.  It never ends.

We will have another Quest on October 13th, 2014.  As Facebook does not allow for the addition of new dates, look for another event invite in a few weeks.  As we uncover self love, we discover beneath each layer is only more. 

There is not an end to love, a limit to how much you get to have or a time when your heart can’t take anymore.  More love is just, well, more.

I am not sure what draws you here but I know why I’m here.  Like you, I have a head full of aches and a heart full of broken things that I’d rather not be there.  It’s not that I think about them consciously, yet they protect/prevent me from full on exposure – sort of like a wet suit.

We can be, and we are actually, swimming in love without feeling it as deeply as is possible.  This protective suit has it all under control.

It feels risky to love without the suit.  Exposure has been known to create all sorts of damage.  Who, in their right mind, wants that?

Love is about the heart, not the mind.  Words and events that create pain, hurt because your thoughts say they hurt.  Your heart knows what’s true.  Nothing exponential is ever achieved without risk.  You’ll have to take off the suit.

You’ll never get the “full effect” with it on.  Now your head will come up with all sorts of reasons to keep covered.  In a logical and predictable and Newtonian world, they make sense.  We’ve moved beyond logical now.  We’ve inched ever so much closer to miraculous.

In your very depths is this huge capacity for compassion.  The most hideous and desperate are sacred there.  Every millimeter of you is faultless.  Deformity is not an option through lenses of love. Pain is not perceived by a pure heart.  How could it be that this “other” could hurt you?  This “other” is you.  Open your eyes and see yourself.

In all your anger and sadness, accusations and self pity, there rests just one truth.  This is the recognition of love.  Love is remembered, it is not found.  In your first moment, birthed from Source, love was all you knew.  Your glory lit the sky and we all gave thanks for your arrival.

Hidden beneath your fear of exposure is that brilliance from your beginning.  It peeks out the cracks in your armor and tells us we are the same.  We are bits of light, moments of love, armfuls of happy.  We are so much more than any logical, fearful thought.

Our time as human is limited.  None of us know how long we’ll be with each other.  Embrace the moment you know you share, this moment now, with both hands and let go.  Enjoy the ride.  Scream with joy, scream with fear if you must yet don’t let the possibility of pain stop you from taking this ride.  You are here together for a reason.  Your only chance at finding it is on the other end of control.

Free is the gift of Agape.  Self love opens all your closed doors and lets us in. 

You are the One we’ve been waiting for.

See you tomorrow.


My new website has been published and you can go there to sign up for next weeks drawing – www.sophialove.org






Friday, September 19, 2014

Love Quest Day 5

It is our fifth day.  Love yourself.  It sounds like a simple thing, doesn’t it?  If it were, most of us would be there.  Like riding a bike.

We learned about bike riding and self love around the same time.  We were very young.  When learning both, there was this gentle period of acclimation where someone – mom, dad, big brother, big sister, uncle or aunt – held you until the right moment.  It was that moment when you were on your own.  Your balance, speed and success were each self determined.  You were heading out into the world – solo. 

What you gleaned from the lessons they gave very much decided how you approached both self love and bike riding.  Did they hold on a little too long out of fear?  Did they push you away too soon?  How they reflected both for you is evidenced in your style.  We are associative beings.  We watch, listen and decide for ourselves what will work.  Typically, we mimic.

It is time for a new approach.  We are all grown up now.  We no longer “need” to be held; although some days it feels like that.  On those days we comfort ourselves with any one of our addictions.  We may blame someone for cutting off our supply, self-medicate or decide to be stoic.  Each approach ends with a hollow spot.  This is not Agape (self-love).

It can be scary to decide to love anyway.  Despite what you may have learned from your elders or any internal objection – you are absolutely lovable.  There is no fear in self-love.  You don’t need make up, great abs or a large bank account.  Whatever you have right now is enough.  You hold a spark of eternity.  You are love embodied.  Today. 

There is no fault that separates you from being worthy of this love.  Its discovery is sort of like that moment when you realize no one is holding on to the bike (or to you) and you are moving on your own; shocking and thrilling all at once.  When it happened for me, I opened my mouth to yell with joy and a bug flew in.  Not what I expected and sort of gross.  I kept on riding.

The thing is, you can keep going with your mouth shut worried about the bug possibility or you can keep going screaming with joy anyway.  Both will get you there.  One way sounds like fun; the other sounds like work.

I don’t know about you, but I’ve got enough to do.  I’m not looking to give myself any more jobs.  Self-love is not something you have to earn.  It is free and equally available.  No one else is counting how much you take or worrying about you getting theirs.  No one is keeping score.  You are the only one who actually knows how much you’ve got.

Sometimes you see people and they arrive full out.  Nothing is missing with them and as a result they expect nothing from you.  They are not asking you to support their anxiety or fill up their empty spots.  They are present. Whether you like them or not, you can’t help but appreciate their lack of dependence.  It is refreshing.

Agape is not something that was on the to-do list of those who came before us.  If you were shown how to love yourself as a child, you are quite fortunate.  If not, doing so now will bring up all sorts of anxiety.  It will feel “wrong”.  It is not.  It is just different.

You are okay, all by yourself.  You are good enough to shower with love.  Treat yourself tenderly, this is new ground and you may want training wheels.  Go ahead, be good to yourself.  Give yourself whatever you need.  Smile.  This is one thing you have to do alone.  It is time. 

You are the One you’ve been waiting for.

See you tomorrow.

 
~Later today my new website will be published! Lots of new stuff and a drawing! Check it out and sign up! www.sophialove.org


 

Love Quest Day 4

Welcome to day 4! At the midpoint of our Quest today, we are “just as far in as we’ll ever be out”. (Anna Nalick)

There have been some times I’ve seen with my heart and some times I’ve seen with my head.  My buttons are still there, waiting to be pushed.  The difference now is that rather than being swallowed up by them, I know where they are.  I recognize them and feel when they are being pushed before I respond. At that point, I am more in charge of my responses than I’ve ever been.

Agape is power.  It takes control of your life and adds order to it.  Until now, you may feel somewhat pushed around by the events, people and even the places of your days.  The ups and downs of your moods are dependent on what or who you run into.  This can change.

Unconditional love is a force.  It is already running through the very heart of you.  It has just been camouflaged with judgment and blame; with failure and defeat.  These emotions are not truth.  They are markers.  They point out places where love is hiding.

There are no parts of you imperfect.  Loves imprint has marked you permanently.  You are love.  Nothing you can think, say or do changes that.  At your very core is acceptance without condition.  To live this way is not something you’ll have to learn, it is something you’ll have to remember.

Moments of remembering are announced with happiness.  Joy is the companion we seek.  Until now she has arrived unbidden.  We can call Joy forth in every moment with unconditional love.  This is the power of Agape.

In order to utilize this power, you’ll have to change your operating system.  You’ve engaged the world as if it has control and determines your mood.  It has looked like this: You are walking along, singing a song and someone approaches.  You stop, look at who they are and feel however they make you feel.  The options are many.

Your new operating system has been designed in reverse.  You are walking along singing a song and you feel grateful, loving, happy, abundant and peaceful.  Someone approaches.  You stop and look.  Your feelings can no longer be manipulated by your environment.  You’ve set them to run on self-love 24-7. 

What happens now?  You can predict the outcome of every encounter.  You are in control; dependent on no one to fill you up or push your buttons to get you going.  This is a powerful place in which you stand.  It is a place of sovereignty.  It is where you are home.

Your operating system can be changed regardless of your age or history.  New hardware is not required.  This is not an upgrade.  It is more like a removal of a malicious virus.  Once accomplished, you are ready for whatever and whoever you walk into. 

Power comes from knowing the answer.  You do.  It is resting in your heart and available for every question, encounter and seeming setback.  Life happens.  Sometimes we are broke, broken or broken hearted.  These feelings do not define you, they are landscapes.  Backdrops for the unique and gentle stroke of your hand, your heart, your light.  The answer is Agape. 

Love your self in every encounter, circumstance and moment.  There is a part of you that does you know.  He or she has been waiting a very long time for you to get with the program.  YOU are the One you’ve been waiting for.

See you tomorrow.


~Later today my new website will be published! Lots of new stuff and a drawing! Check it out and sign up! www.sophialove.org


 


Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Love Quest Day 3

It is our third day.  Perhaps you’ve begun to see with eyes of Agape.  Perhaps not.  Sometimes we look without seeing anyone at all.  Not because there is no one there; it’s that we aren’t seeing.

Your heart asks you to pay attention to everyone within view.  Everyone.  If you consider the thought that you know almost everyone you’ll see today – from the days before today – why then would you need to focus even more on them?  You’ve encountered them before and are pretty familiar with what they will probably say.  Perhaps they ring up your groceries.  Perhaps they sit at your dinner table. This doesn’t appear to demand your full involvement.

What if you were told that today you’d meet Source.  You weren’t told who Source would show up as, but you were guaranteed that one of your conversations today would be with him/her.  Now that would get your attention!  What an incredible opportunity; to connect with Absolute Truth, Eternal Essence and Pure Love.  You would be on high alert.  Everyone would matter.  Everyone.

Everyone does matter, and when you start to connect with them as if they do, magic happens.  There are no small moments.  There are no insignificant acts of love.  Your heart knows this.

Seeing with your heart is sort of like using “X-ray vision” glasses.  Only instead of bones you are looking at Truth.  What’s there is a being, defining him or her self with each word and action.  Although you may be hearing the words they are speaking, they are not about you. They are echoes of the internal dialog going on inside their head.

If you listen with your head, you’ll hear echoes of your own internal chatter.  It’s a wonder any of us manage to communicate. 

Seeing and listening from your heart opens up a whole new world of calm.  Suddenly no one is at fault.  Empathy becomes the great equalizer.  Agape erupts without a sound.

The heart sees only unity.  Today, see everyone as Source and watch what happens.  When we sense familiarity and acceptance, we light up.  It’ll be like walking around engulfed by “motion detector” lights. 

We are One and we sparkle like a star studded sky…

We are the One we’ve been waiting for.

See you tomorrow,



Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Love Quest Day 2

Welcome to our second day!  We’ve noticed what Agape is NOT.  Let’s move along a bit further.

We can see now parts of ourselves we’ve found to be unacceptable - so much so that we cannot look at them.  The first step towards changing anything is recognition.  What’s not working?  This journey is not so much about fixing what is wrong as seeing what is going on.  We are not broken.  We are in varying levels of pain and healing.

To move through these parts we’ll have to accept them without shame.  This is not a pretty process or a simple one.  None of us are exempt.  How do we see with our hearts instead of our heads?

Compassion is key.  Look at each other.  Find not fault, but empathy.  I am your sister.  He is your brother.  You know how we feel.  You’ve been here on some level.  We are not “wrong” or “strange” or “uncomfortable”; we are doing the best we can with what we have.

As your emotional trigger gets pushed, and you feel the rise of anger, pity, annoyance or opinion – STOP.  You are looking right now at an aspect of yourself you’d rather not.  This “other”, the one killing your otherwise sunny disposition, reminds you of you.  This memory is familiar.  It is uncomfortable.  You’ve labeled it “not good”.  You want it to stop.  It reminds you of why you feel so bad sometimes.

You are not wrong or bad for feeling this way. You’ve been trained by a lifetime of habit.  Very early on you learned specific responses; they are engrained in your brain.  You feel familiarity around them.  You may actually seek to create them if they are not already there.  You label them your personality:  “I am me.  I like these types of things and people.  I don’t like these types of things and people.”

You are speaking here as the little you.  This is the you that is determined by circumstance.  It is not the Great You.  The Great You is self defined, embodied and present in every moment.  The Great You greets every circumstance, welcomes and embraces it.

The Great You has preferences without opinion.  He or she may like a certain color more than another.  I was with a little guy this past weekend who is just learning his colors.   So far he knows “yeyow”.  His response to any “What color is this?” question is exactly the same: “yeyow”. To him, color is in a category of One. He is proud and happy to tell you his newly discovered truth.

Now next week he’ll learn another color and the separation begins.  There will be “not yeyow” things he’ll have to decide about.  What attributes he puts on these new colors will in some way decide how he sees the world.  It is that way for all of us.

There are all sorts of “not yeyow” things we’ve already formed opinions about.  These decisions feel right and comforting in a constantly shifting world.  We can “hang our hat” on these thoughts.  We’ve held on to them for such a long time – they must be true.

Yet the number of absolute truths can be held in one hand.  The rest are momentary truths and depend on the subject, the speaker and the “time”.

To embody Agape asks that you see with your heart.  The heart knows Truth.  It can be trusted.  You will recognize when your heart is seeing.  It sees only love.  It sees only Truth.  Sort of like seeing all color as “yeyow”, your heart sees all of us as infinite expressions of life.  Your heart sees you as exquisite. The heart sees One everywhere it looks.

The inner discomfort you feel when your buttons are pushed is not a signal of error or wrongdoing or imperfection.  It is a message from your heart.  It is whispering “I know the perfection that is you.  Remember.  This judgment you are forming is of the little you.  I know the Great You.  Remember.”

So we spend our formative years learning to categorize and label this 3D world.  Then we wake up.  We realize these names are just conventions.  They are useful in conversations perhaps; not so much in forming beliefs.  Names are separators.  All is One.

The little you needed them to communicate and make sense of a very big world.  The Great You does not.  Observe them, yes; and then without opinion see with your heart.

What you’ll find is that reflected in each bit of life and every face is a bit of you.  Look directly at yourself and accept each gift.  For you are so much greater than the sum of your parts.  You are so much more than a name, age, color, title, job, relationship, gender, religion or nationality.  You are heaven itself, all wrapped up in a being that, for now, is human.

This Great You is multi-dimensional, the embodiment of Eternal Essence, and certainly bigger than any opinion.  This Great You is an honor to know.  Thank you for showing up.  You are the One we’ve been waiting for.

See you tomorrow,


Monday, September 15, 2014

Love Quest Day 1

Welcome to our Quest for Agape. 

To love without condition is surrender.  It is ultimate truth.  There is nothing that stands in the way of this love; nothing to hide, to protest, to blame, to judge, to avoid.  There is nothing to risk.

This is not to say that it feels this way, for it does not.  On your way to Agape you’ll want to hide.  You may perceive hiding as the safest route to take.  Once taken, you’ll realize something; you are not in Agape, you are merely alone.  Although love begins within, this is a physical existence.  It is meant to be lived out loud, with all of us.

In 2011 these Quests were begun as a path to discover self love and self forgiveness.  After 2 years of monthly journeys, we reached a point of understanding.  Intellectually we comprehended our own worth. 

Yet today, 1 ½ years later, do we experience everyday Agape?  What does that look like anyway?  It is there I’d like to take us.

We have all chosen beautifully. Our life is made up of mirrors. We are surrounded by each other; gauges for the degree of love which is present.  Look around.  If someone enrages you internally, you’ve seen your own self-loathing. 

This is how it works.  As long as there exists in your heart any reason to hate or to be annoyed or to be afraid or to judge or to blame – you do not love.  We are all lovable.  How is this true?  It is true because we are One.

Unity is the answer for every conundrum.  Recently I experienced physical evidence for this.  An accident left me physically, but temporarily, sort of deformed facially.  It’s been 3 weeks and part of my face is still black and blue, while there is a lump protruding from my forehead.  Only now do people not look away from my face in public.  Three weeks ago this was not the case.

The thing is, I have not changed on the inside.  I AM me.  I feel whole and attractive and strong and love and the same.  In the eyes of almost everyone I’ve met, I am not.  I have not been offended by their discomfort and avoidance, just curious.  After many repeated and uncomfortable encounters it became perfectly clear who we are.

We are self defined.

The awkward feelings and silent judgments of each stranger I encountered say nothing about who I am – but volumes about who they are.  How we react and feel about what and who we encounter outside of our bathroom mirror is a clear image of who we are; clearer than any piece of glass can provide.  I was a problem for everyone but me these last few weeks. 
I am not diminished by their judgment, while they suffer.  I know I am more than these lumps and bruises.  I am a piece of eternity; whole and beautiful; as are you.

You are a Master; only Masters can incarnate as human.  You have come here to challenge yourself, to see yourself with lumps and bruises and to remember who you are.

Love is not perfectly dressed, photo-shopped, planned, or performed.  It is sometimes lumpy and may leave ugliness on the outside.  Love doesn’t show on the outside.  On the outside is “window dressing”, which is fun and part of being human but not the point of this Quest.  This Quest is about finding what’s beautiful on the inside.  That’s where you are.

Remember.  Remember who you are – a bit of Source who showed up on planet Earth to show us how it’s done. 

You are the One we’ve been waiting for.

See you tomorrow.



Thursday, August 28, 2014

IMO



You could be doing anything else right now, any wonderful, fun, mind expanding thing.  Yet you are not, you are reading these words.  So they better be worth it.

We find ourselves in such an incredible moment of history, there are words everywhere talking about it, competing for your attention.  Which ones you choose will flavor your day and color your picture of our global story.

Try as I might NOT to bias these words with any particular slant, it happens.  Regardless of what name I call it, you are reading only my opinion.  Now if you agree on some level, you may look this blog up again.  If not, you may not.  So this moment could very well be the one and only chance to share with you some thoughts. I’ve come to believe these thoughts only matter if in some way they are helpful, not only to you but to us.  We have a planet to awaken. 

There are fewer blog posts lately for this reason.  The past monthly Love Quests and frequent blog posts were part of our collective journey to agape and empowerment.  We know who we are now.  Our next step is to live as sovereign beings.  I’d very much like to take this journey together; with another series of Quests.  In them we’ll proceed towards freedom.  We’ll emerge as Sovereign Beings.



Intellectually we get what sovereignty is – yet it is not how we typically approach every facet of our days. These Quests will explore how to do that, and identify an even deeper truth in our Being.

Perhaps it is another facet of Agape, one that we couldn’t see.  It was hidden behind our self hatred and blame.  We’ll discover more truth together.  Look for the first Quest sometime next month.  Check out the Sovereignty Video Series HERE while you wait. 

Know that we are getting there.  Any harboring of hatred, blame, judgment or self pity is self destructive.  We are together building this new era and it will be only and exactly as we see it and expect it.  Once we look fearlessly at our own tendencies toward subservience and finger pointing, we liberate ourselves.  This creates truly a new age – one filled not with controls, owners and participants, but with self defined and directed, responsible loving beings who gladly answer to no one but themselves.

This is something we’ll do alone and as One, because that’s how creation works.  You can’t help but change the world with your every thought.

The date of the next Quest will be announced by next week.  See you then!

We are the Ones we are waiting for.


 

Friday, February 14, 2014

Love Quest : Day 7 - "Singles Awareness Day"


Picture We’ve gotten to the end of this Quest and the beginning of the rest of your days.  How you feel about yourself in them will, in no small way, determine how much love you experience as a tangible force.

There are places you’ll go that are brimming with love.  You may meet someone and “fall” in love, have a child and for a time be immersed in the pure energy of newborn love or begin a project you are passionate about and find yourself swimming in the juices of creative love.  Each of these situations is temporary.  You’ll move through them and wake up one day on the other side, with only you to look forward to.  Then what?

It’ll be important then to pull out all the stops you’ve typically put on self-love and allow it to continue to flow unrestricted.  We talked about them this week, the dark stuff and the “when I am this” stuff.  These reasons you carry in your head.  The ones preventing Agape cannot reach your heart.

You can try to put them there, to tell yourself how unworthy you are or how (fill in the blank) you are, but your heart will have none of it.  Your heart cannot lie and it cannot be fooled.  The reason you feel so bad whenever you are judging either yourself or a feeling of love you have for another, is because there is a lie in what your head is telling you, and your heart knows it.  Love can’t lie.  It only knows how to love.

This week we pulled out all the ugly and loved anyway.  If it didn’t feel good it’s because your head is still trying to run the show and tell your heart what to feel.  It won’t work; you cannot change your heart.  It only knows love.

Allow yourself to be loved.  You’ve opened the door to Agape, now let it in.  Stand there, warts and all, and demand full acceptance.  This may feel like a radical act.  It’s the only one you have left.  The dirty laundry is hanging on the clothes line in full view.  The neighbors have all seen it.  Nothing is hidden.  Keep standing.

What you will discover is parts of you which you’ve been unaware of.  You see you can’t cover just the “bad” and “unacceptable” parts without also hiding the rest.  You are full out now and available for complete emergence into your life.  There is much more to you than you know.  Let it come out.

As you feel safe, as the judgment leaves, there will be room left for love.  You will start to feel okay not just momentarily, but in all of your moments.  That okay feeling, if allowed to grow without inhibition, will one day turn into full out adoration. 

This is the secret very young humans have.  What’s pumping through their veins is only love.  Their heads have not yet tried to convince them they are wrong. That joy and freedom in their play and the exuberance in their eyes is what lies beneath the cover of judgment and self loathing you carry.  Today, leave the cover off and watch yourself rise.  You are enough, and all that you “need” to “find” true love.

My son calls today “Singles Awareness Day”; a perfect day to complete our Quest.  It’s not someone else you are looking for anyway.  It’s you.  There are no conditions that make you unlovable, no parts of you unworthy.  The treasure revealed when you toss off self hatred is one you have never seen.  It has been hidden so well, even you were blind to its brilliance.

Go ahead, take a peak.  Imagine today is your last chance to win the Joy Prize for the rest of your days.  Only one more thing to do and it’s all yours.  It’s so close you can almost see it.  All you have to do is let go.  Whatever “reason” you have, and you know them all cold, must be left behind.  The only thing capable of accepting Agape is already yours.

Your heart feels Agape.  It’s been telling you for years.  With every good feeling you’ve ever had about someone or something, no matter who or what, its beating self-love.  None of this was ever wrong.

So leave your head out of it.  It will try to convince you otherwise.  There is nothing wrong with you and as you accept all your parts, the rest of you will join the party.  You cannot partially love or put conditions on Agape. It’s either full acceptance or some degree of discomfort – you’ll have to choose.

Whether “single” or one part of a “couple”, you are alone in this.  When all is said and done, it comes down to one thing.  The self-acceptance you allow is equivalent to the love you feel, regardless of its “source”.  It starts and ends with you.  The rest of us?  We are just some other fun parts, the ride is yours alone.

You are the one you’ve been waiting for.  Thank you for sharing your journey with me.  It’s been an honor.

~Sophia

PS If you are able, share some love today with my friend Lucas, who could use some help right now.  Click here for more information or to donate, go directly to his blog.  Thank you.

                                    Letter for you on your first day here.





Thursday, February 13, 2014

Love Quest : Day 6 - Perfect





You’re not supposed to be anyone else.  You’re supposed to be you.  You may have spent your time thus far thinking you were supposed to respond to and create life like your mother, father, sister, brother or favorite somebody.  If so, it’s been an exercise in futility and frustration.  Try hard as you might, you can’t be anyone but you.  And that’s okay.

As a child I belonged to a 4-H club.  We competed at the county level.  Once, in a baking contest, my friend made the most beautiful cake.  As we watched it rising in the oven, she realized she’d forgotten to add the eggs.  She opened the oven door and shoved them in.  It was a disaster from that point on.  No ribbons went home with her that year. 

You see, she had made a perfect eggless cake without ever being aware of her unique accomplishment.  Determined to follow the recipe, the one everyone else followed, she had destroyed her one-of-a-kind creation.

You are a perfect you.  There is no other.  None have come before you and none will follow.  The way you look at and contribute to every moment is necessary and unique.  We would not, could not, be “us” if not for you.

Trust.  Pat yourself on the back.  Give yourself a hug.  We need you strong and sure so we can feel good about being the same. 

Start a new dialogue.  When someone asks you how you are, refrain from the broke, tired and sick conversation.  Words are real and creative.  Say “I’m great!” until you believe it.  Pretty soon you will. 

This is not rehearsal.  It’s show time.  And you are the one you’ve been waiting for.

See you tomorrow.

                                                       Perfect