Sometimes it seems as if there is no love around you. Serious faces, worried looks and anxious glances fill the heads of the people who walk through your life. Mostly, eyes avoid contact.
In uncertain times, we tend to fall back, at least internally, to a specific state of comfort. If concern and focus on the problem (whatever it is) is where you spend the most time, that's where your natural zone is and where you'll head when under stress.
What happens on our journey through “time” is that we arrive knowing every aspect, dimension and version of ourselves. There is no “veil” and we spend time everywhere, as every possibility of us is “real”. We are awake and aware.
As infants react to these “alternative realities”, we, the humans in this “reality”, do nothing to reinforce what they are seeing. Not until they react to something we can also perceive. Then we smile, clap, hug and encourage them. This is how the separation begins. Those places are deemed our “imagination”, and relegated to fantasy.
Slowly, we train each other to focus where we are looking. “The forgetting” is the beginning of the process of going to sleep. Deep sleep happens at puberty – when we become cognizant of all that is “real” and put away our super hero's and fairy tales. We get serious. We grow up.
This is neither good nor bad, yet it does explain how we, adults now, have only a small amount of fairy dust or super power to pull out and have fun with. We thought that in order to be a responsible powerful adult - we had to put those things away.
I guess it depends on where you want your success and what success means for you. If you are reading this, you are awake and perhaps are re-defining success. It may be time to pull out the capes and wings and fly around a bit; just because.
Loving yourself is something you came here doing. You focused on what made you happy. You looked around – a lot. You noticed, heard and smelled every new thing. You wondered about someone who talked in another language, looked different or had a funny way of getting around; and you, unafraid, asked “why”. You laughed often. You cried freely. You stopped both on a moments notice.
You did not come here stuck on replay – doomed to react the same way over and over to similar events. Somewhere and somehow that behavior is learned by our ego self. We are easily addicted as humans and with each passing year our “need for a fix” just grows. We require more and more for the same hit, in order to feel some sense of equilibrium.
Loving yourself means adjusting those addictions. Turn the dial back until they are closer to the addictions you had as a child. The only things on your mind then were happiness, curiosity, comfort, fun and exploration. You did everything you did to get one or all of the above. The purpose was love. The focus was you.
As you love yourself, you'll notice a softness emerge. It is difficult to explain, yet easily felt. As a child your shields were down and you let everything in. If something hurt – you cried and were over it. You knew all things were temporary; every moment was NOW, and you didn't want to miss any of it. You were present.
Finding a space in your heart for unconditional love means, just maybe, moving some other things out of the way. Suggestions for what to box up would include:
- have to
- need to
- won't ever
- afraid to
If all that freed up empty space makes you queasy, fill it up with fairy dust, angel wings, super powers, magic wands, light sabers and hero capes. Play. You are an exuberant, 1,000,000 watt light beam of energy. You are powered with love and move because the very force of creation deems it so.
As you remember play, you'll remember me. I was right there with you when you arrived oh so many years ago. I've been hidden behind should, can't and have to. Once you see me you'll remember our secret. We are the same. Allowing love into your own heart opens up space for our connection to be visible. We are One.
Unity happens without force or a movement or a pushing against. It occurs seamlessly with an opening up. Allow me to see your super powers. I'll show you my wings. Love yourself and I will feel your hug. That's when we'll remember.
We are the One's we've been waiting for.
See you tomorrow.